Dear Viv: How should I behave around a friend who is ill?

On this week's podcast, Viv discusses younger siblings with questions about sex, how to talk to an old friend with cancer, downgrading a friend with benefits to 'just friends', and taking the leap to live abroad.

Dear Viv

Each Tuesday, The Pool’s resident agony aunt Viv Groskop tackles personal problems, emotional issues and all the nightmares of life both large and small.

Viv Groskop gained her agony aunt qualifications at the School of Life, having made a load of mistakes, said a lot of idiotic things, smoked way too many cigarettes (40 a day at one time) and drunk too many glasses of wine, including wine she didn’t even like. She’s had lots of miniature everyday breakdowns where she’s used good friends, self-help books and lots of therapy to get through this occasional pain in the ass we call life. 

Now she's here to dispense the tough-love that your friends are too polite to give you.

If you have a question for Viv, email All submissions will be kept anonymous.

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